Category: My View of Me

Let Them Eat Cupcakes

I’ve always been more of the “fun-hater” in our house!  I’m the “eat your supper before dessert” person or the “no sweet treats before lunch” person.  I’m ok with it!  Someone has to be that person and the boys and I have a great relationship regardless!  This past weekend however, I decided to live in the moment and relax a little!

World of Rules

Our world is full of rules today!  Eat this, don’t eat that.  Don’t do that, do this, etc.  It’s easy to get caught up in what is “right” and what is “wrong” and forget that life is happening around us each day!  When you’re raising kids, you are constantly worried that you are “screwing them up”.  Oh, that’s just me? Well, OK then! 😉  Society today has put so many expectations on us as parents or step-parents that it’s amazing our parents were able to raise us!

While I think rules are good, I also think they are an outline of how to live your life, how to make decisions, etc.  So, that being said…rules are made to be broken every once in awhile or stretched, right?!

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The 16 Best of 2016

I can’t believe another year has come and gone! I see so many social media posts about how awful everyone thinks 2016 has been and my heart hurts for those people! I mainly hurt because my 2016 has been phenomenal! Has there been frustrations, heart ache, things that don’t go exactly how we planed?! Absolutely, but that’s life.  We choose to focus on all the things that we’ve been blessed with in our lives and year! So, I thought I’d share with you 16 of my favorite pictures found on my phone from 2016!

Without further adieu and in no particular order:

 1.  This was our first day on our family vacation in Branson!  Not only were we excited to explore the area, but we were excited to be out of the truck too!  Plus, it’s me and my three favorite guys, so what could be better?

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Random Monday Thoughts, 10/17/2016

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It’s been quite awhile since I’ve done one of these, so I thought it was time! Without further ado…here are my thoughts for this Monday!

1. Fall is the best season of all!  I love that everything it brings with it.  Cooler temps, the turning of the leaves, pumpkins, and soups!  You can’t go wrong with any of that!  It’s the perfect balance of needing a sweatshirt at night and short sleeves during the day!  I get to watch the boys play football and run cross country!

2.  The song “Don’t Blink” is 100% true! When people tell you not to blink because time flies and kids grow too fast, believe them!  I have to be honest that I see parents of young (8 or younger) say that time is going to fast and think, “you’ve got no idea”.  The 5 years that T and I have been married and I’ve been step-mom to two amazing boys have been the fastest 5 years of my life!  I feel like if I blink too many times, R will be graduating and M will be in high school.  Maybe I’ll just stare into space for the next 10 years! 😉 I don’t think too much about it all, I’m living in denial for the next 3 years…I have to…it’s my coping mechanism.

3.  Weekends at home are just what the doctor ordered.  This past weekend we got to be home the entire time (other than Friday night football).  I seriously don’t know the last time we had that!  We had lazy breakfasts and coffee, I got groceries, and really cleaned the house, we worked outside, and we were lazy.  I feel refreshed coming back to work today and that is a great feeling!

4.  Making memories can happen everywhere.  We sold our camper and truck this past August.  As hard as it was to do, we just didn’t have the time in our schedules to make it worth the investment.  We vowed to each other, and to the boys, that we would make memories in different ways and experience new things.  The first of those started this past weekend.  Since we don’t have camping to enjoy campfire food, we dug and installed a fire ring in our backyard.  Saturday night we had our first fire in it.  We made homemade cheeseballs and onion rings, followed by grilled burgers (eaten on our laps and without plates), and finished off with funnel cakes.  It was great to see the boys playing with each other, putting their devices down, and just enjoying each others company!

5.  I am the most blessed woman in the universe!  I think most people with fantastic families feel this way, but I especially do!  We got our new family pictures back and you’re going to get a a rare peak at my boys!  They are spectacular and I can’t wait to get the big ones (16×20) printed, framed, and up on my world.  These pictures are a great narrative of how happy I am in my life!  (Thanks to Jill McCaslin Photography for capturing these shots!)

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Have a great week!!

 

It’s Just a Number!

Your age. It doesn’t matter whether it’s 20 or 65.  It’s just a number.  It has no reflection on what kind of person you are.  It doesn’t tell anyone what kind of physical shape you are in.  It doesn’t dictate what you are or are not able of doing.  It’s just a number.

The numbers in your bank account.  It doesn’t matter whether it’s 0 or 100,000.  It’s just a number.  It doesn’t make you better than, worse than, superior to, or inferior to anyone else!  It doesn’t mean you don’t work hard.  It doesn’t mean you work harder than someone else.  It’s just a number.

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Stepmom, yes. Victim, no!

I love the support that the stepmom community within social media provides, but I also get very frustrated with the mentality that stepmoms or step-dads are victims.  Unfortunately there seems to be a group of step-moms specifically on Twitter (or at least that’s where I have found them) that have decided that step-moms are treated unfairly and that we are the victim in the situation.  I’m a step-mom and I’m telling you we are not victims.

Choosing to date and marry someone with children from a previous relationship or marriage is a very conscious decision.  It affects the dynamics of your relationship on so many levels.  There isn’t a honeymoon period where it’s just you and your spouse and there’s actually 3 or 4 people in your relationship (directly or indirectly): you, your spouse, the other parent and possibly another step-parent).  You have to be very aware of the situation that you are in and how every decision you make affects not only your household, but quite possibly the other household!

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10 Traveling Companions & Reflections

I discovered this “note” on Facebook that wrote probably close to 8 years ago!  As I read it and reflected on my answers then, I’m amazed I still feel the same about things.  There will be a few notes in italics that are my thoughts now, as an older more mature person!  

My dad gave me a book in my stocking for Christmas called “Keep Believing in Yourself and Your Dreams” It’s a collection of different poems, quotations, and writings “to motivate and inspire your dreams”. Now, I’m going to have to admit that I’m not usually one for cheesy quotations, etc. But I’ve found one part that has really gotten me thinking. So, I’m going to share it here, along with some thoughts about how it applies to my own life and who knows…maybe they’ll be more as I read!

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Random Thoughts on Life

I have to be honest with you, life has been crazy! I know we can all say that at some point, but this week has been incredibly crazy in my world. Football games, homecoming events, North Iowa Blogger workshops, and more have filled our calendar. So, as much as I would like to say how inspired I’ve been to write lately…I haven’t. So, now you’re getting random thoughts on life!

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“Stand”

Do you ever hear one of those songs that takes you back to a point in your life…good or bad? That was me this morning driving to work. I popped in a Rascal Flatts CD (yes, I still have CD’s and yes, I still listen to them) into my player in the car and prepared to jam all the way to work. Instead..the first song brought me to tears. Tears of memories, tears of gratitude, tears of joy.

That song was “Stand”.  The reason it brought me to tears?  That song had become my personal anthem about 9 years ago.  You see, I had broken off an engagement and moved home…starting over on my own.  I was in a relationship that, at the time, I thought was great!  I thought he loved me, although he struggled with ways to show me.  He never abused me, never verbally abused me..he just didn’t love me the way I needed to be loved and didn’t give me what I needed in a relationship.  While it was the hardest decision of my life (weeks of sleepless nights, endless days & nights of crying and sobbing) and learning how to be “alone” again…I knew it was the best decision for me and him, to be honest.

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Things You Need to Know About Step-Parents!

I LOVE being a step-mom! I love my step-sons…or my boys as I affectionately call them! We all know they aren’t biologically my boys, but I love them as if they are!  Earlier this summer I came across THIS article about being a step-parent and felt as though I could have written it myself!

I feel the need to preface or follow up what I refer to my step-sons as with a disclaimer because someone might get the wrong idea or think I’m trying to steal the thunder from their mom and honestly, it’s exhausting because that isn’t what I’m trying to do! While being a step-mom is one of the greatest “jobs” I’ve ever had, it’s also one of the hardest, but I would never change it for the world. So, if you’ll stick with me and be willing to learn a bit about what it’s like to be a step-parent…

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Anorexia & How It Rules My Life, Part 3

If you follow my blog, you know that I had written 2 different posts about how Anorexia and my struggle with it. You also know that those entries were back in February! (You can find Part 1 & Part 2) That is due to the fact that Part 3 is the hardest to write (I’ve actually been “at this” for a month now, trying to write & share it)!  This part is how anorexia still rules my life every day even though I try hard to not let it!!  I know what a lot of people say, “if you know it’s in your head and wrong, then just don’t listen to it!”  Have you ever said that to an alcoholic or a cocaine addict?  It’s the same concept.  I know I shouldn’t let it rule my daily life, I know that I shouldn’t obsess over what I look like, how much I weigh, what size clothes I wear, but the reality is…I do.

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