I’ve always been more of the “fun-hater” in our house! I’m the “eat your supper before dessert” person or the “no sweet treats before lunch” person. I’m ok with it! Someone has to be that person and the boys and I have a great relationship regardless! This past weekend however, I decided to live in the moment and relax a little!
World of Rules
Our world is full of rules today! Eat this, don’t eat that. Don’t do that, do this, etc. It’s easy to get caught up in what is “right” and what is “wrong” and forget that life is happening around us each day! When you’re raising kids, you are constantly worried that you are “screwing them up”. Oh, that’s just me? Well, OK then! 😉 Society today has put so many expectations on us as parents or step-parents that it’s amazing our parents were able to raise us!
While I think rules are good, I also think they are an outline of how to live your life, how to make decisions, etc. So, that being said…rules are made to be broken every once in awhile or stretched, right?!
It’s our wedding anniversary today! I can’t believe it’s been six years since we said “I do” and created this new family and started our journey in life together! Some days it seems like 6 years, other days it seems like 16 years, and yet there are days it seems like 6 days!
Our life together is so much better than anything I could have dreamed or imagined! Our relationship isn’t perfect, our marriage isn’t perfect, but it’s perfect for us! We work together, being a team on everything we do and that’s probably my most favorite thing about our marriage! I love T more than I ever thought I possibly could and am overwhelmed with emotions when I think about our life together, with the boys! My life is more enriched and blessed because of my three favorite guys! It is the best! Thank you to T for giving me everything I never knew I needed or wanted!
I thought it would be fun to share some pictures of us together from the last six years! So, here you go!
Our engagement photo in June of 2011
One of our many amazing wedding photos, August 27th, 2011
I can’t believe it’s M’s birthday again! Each year it seems to come around faster and faster! He’s becoming a teenager this year and I’m in denial. In fact, I’ve been completely avoiding the topic because I get teary whenever I think about it! I’m not sure how it’s happened, but it has!
Happy Birthday M!
You’re 13 today! I don’t know how it happened! (Funny, I started your 11th birthday letter the exact same way!) It’s official that you’re a teenager and I’m not dealing well with it! You, my sweet, brown-eyed boy, are such an amazing kid! 6 years ago when I joined your family, I would never have imagined what a place in my heart you would have! And really, you’re not a boy anymore, you are definitely a young man! And a young man I’m so proud of!
I can’t believe another year has come and gone! I see so many social media posts about how awful everyone thinks 2016 has been and my heart hurts for those people! I mainly hurt because my 2016 has been phenomenal! Has there been frustrations, heart ache, things that don’t go exactly how we planed?! Absolutely, but that’s life. We choose to focus on all the things that we’ve been blessed with in our lives and year! So, I thought I’d share with you 16 of my favorite pictures found on my phone from 2016!
Without further adieu and in no particular order:
1. This was our first day on our family vacation in Branson! Not only were we excited to explore the area, but we were excited to be out of the truck too! Plus, it’s me and my three favorite guys, so what could be better?
Here’s something you need to know about me (if you don’t already). I don’t pull any punches, I don’t sugar coat things, and I live in reality! So, what’s my reality you ask?
Reality is: I work a full-time job, sell for 2 DS companies, & have my own social media management business. I’m a busy lady and it leaves very little time for “me” time or girls nights out or even time to maintain girlfriend relationships.
Reality is: My step-sons keep me even busier! Between cross-country and football this fall, our calendar is full. I’m exhausted just writing all the meets and games into my planner and on the calendar. I think scheduling everything should be a sport by itself!
Reality is: We eat processed crap foods. We almost always have a pan of brownies at our house. I don’t have the time or desire to home-bake my own bread!
I can’t believe it’s our 5 year anniversary! I’m not entirely sure where the 5 years have gone! It’s gone so fast and yet it seems like we’ve been married for three times that! For our anniversary this year, I decided to share some candid photos from our wedding day that I think describe our marriage the best and also the day we said “I do!”
Your age. It doesn’t matter whether it’s 20 or 65. It’s just a number. It has no reflection on what kind of person you are. It doesn’t tell anyone what kind of physical shape you are in. It doesn’t dictate what you are or are not able of doing. It’s just a number.
The numbers in your bank account. It doesn’t matter whether it’s 0 or 100,000. It’s just a number. It doesn’t make you better than, worse than, superior to, or inferior to anyone else! It doesn’t mean you don’t work hard. It doesn’t mean you work harder than someone else. It’s just a number.
It’s graduation time here in North Iowa and I can’t help but think about R graduating in a short 3 years…or about how I felt 16 (gasp!) years ago when I graduated. I also can’t help but remember when I was the graduate. There are so many mixed emotions. There is part of me that feels like those days were just a year or two ago and the other part of me feels like a lifetime ago. I suppose that’s because it was a lifetime ago. Wait…how did I get this old??
But, I digress…
I have several things to say, so bear with me if you would. The next week or two is going to evoke a lot of emotions…sadness, happiness, pure excitement, and fear. You’re not only going to feel these emotions in the next week or so, but the next several months as you prepare for the next step in your life. So, here are a couple things to keep in mind as you move forward.
Step-parenting is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and sadly society doesn’t make it any easier. For as long as divorce and remarriage has been a “common” thing, one would think that there would be more acceptance of step-parents and less cliches! However, the longer I am one…the less I realize this is true! That being said, my life is so much richer and full because of having my step-sons in my life and I can’t imagine my life without them in it. So, I decided to compile some advice for people who aren’t step-parents!
Sara of All In An Iowa Mom’s Day shared a story on her Facebook page the other day about a teenage girl and her mother at a department store and a clerk who said that the teen age girl needed Spanx. The discussion that followed in the comments got me thinking about body shaming and how out of control it is. Some of the comments that followed the story made me furious! The majority of women on this post were incredibly supportive of course and saying that the clerk was out of line, but there were others that were insinuating that the girl would look better if she was wearing spanx underneath. I was flabbergasted!